The Great Cancer Adventure

It’s Over

Published on 4 May 2009 at 8:04 pm. 135 Comments.
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Our journey together has ended. Maggie is finally resting peacefully and, for the first time in nearly three years, not suffering. My heart aches.

135 Comments to ‘It’s Over’:

Galiya on 4 May 2009 at 8:06 pm: 1

omg… (((( Chris, we are with you

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Melanie J. on 4 May 2009 at 8:09 pm: 2

Chris, I am so very sorry for the loss of your Maggie. How incredibly blessed she was to have a husband like you by her side through it all and how blessed you were to have her as your bride. I will continue to pray for you and your family through this time. She is smiling upon you now, that bright beautiful smile.

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A friend on 4 May 2009 at 8:09 pm: 3

Chris, you are in my heart. I know how sad you are, but at the same time you are right: Maggie is now finally resting peacefully.

May you find comfort in your faith.

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Jeff Manske on 4 May 2009 at 8:12 pm: 4

Chris,

My heart is aching and I’m here if you need anything (immediately or later). Maggie was a gift from God and how she lived her life was her gift to God and all of us.

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Tony Loiacono on 4 May 2009 at 8:12 pm: 5

Now rest as peacefully as posssible yourself Chris. I am sorry…

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Betsy on 4 May 2009 at 8:13 pm: 6

Chris, We are so very sorry. Our thoughts are with you. — Michael and Betsy

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A friend on 4 May 2009 at 8:19 pm: 7

If you would like to send Chris a card or personal message, it can be mailed to:

5501-A Balcones Drive; Box 136; Austin, TX 78731.

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Craig on 4 May 2009 at 8:26 pm: 8

Chris,

My heart cries for you and Maggie.

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Paula Thrasher on 4 May 2009 at 8:28 pm: 9

Tonight I pray for you Chris and your family members. God has Maggie, and he will take care of you in the days to come. May the love and support of all who have visited you here give you strength. We all grieve with you. Andrea’s Mom – Paula

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Stacy on 4 May 2009 at 8:35 pm: 10

My heartfelt prayers are with you all for comfort and peace. I am so sorry. -Stacy

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carie on 4 May 2009 at 8:42 pm: 11

My heart aches for you. I pray that you will be able to find some comfort in your family and friends during this time. My most heartfelt sympathy.
Carie

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Laura S. on 4 May 2009 at 8:45 pm: 12

I am so sorry Chris. I wanted you to know that I had a dream of Maggie two days ago. She looked so happy and gave me an amazing hug like she always did to everyone. She said she was about to start on a new painting. I like to think she is doing that right now.

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Ev on 4 May 2009 at 8:51 pm: 13

Chris, if you need anything let us know. Absolutely anything.

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Megan Little on 4 May 2009 at 8:56 pm: 14

Chris, I am so sorry. You have shown such strength, love, and support through all this.
Maggie’s light will shine on…she has touched so many.

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Dave Tisdale on 4 May 2009 at 8:56 pm: 15

Maggie and Chris,

Thank you for taking us with you on your brave journey. We are blessed.

You are in my prayers.

Dave

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Adam Boyd on 4 May 2009 at 9:00 pm: 16

My prayers are with you, Chris.

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New York on 4 May 2009 at 9:01 pm: 17

God bless you Chris. Maggie is at peace and free from pain. For me, watching a loved one suffer was worse than having them pass. Her body may have died but her energy will live on forever in her loved ones.

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Anonymous on 4 May 2009 at 9:02 pm: 18

I pray for you, Maggie and your families. Having been through such a loss, i know there are no words one can say to console you. I hope you find strength and support from all those around you. They are the Angels sent to you to care for you. I feel so sad for your loss…

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Bonnie on 4 May 2009 at 9:03 pm: 19

Chris…….I’m…..there’s no words.

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Karen knezick on 4 May 2009 at 9:03 pm: 20

Chris,
Thank you for all that you have done for Maggie all this time. Thank you for your beautiful blog and for allowing us to come along with you on this journey. You have been honest and couragous and you give people hope that even at the worst of times someone will love and stick by you and hold your hand and talk you into that forever sleep. Thank you for all that you have taught us as well. My heart is crying for your loss…Give yourself a lot of time to be okay and be selfish for as long as you need to be because you have given a lot..you deserve to be taken care of now remember that. It is okay to be not okay and you take as long as you need to get back to okay.
Much love and light.
Karen

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Karen knezick on 4 May 2009 at 9:06 pm: 21

I want to give you this poem..someone gave me a copy when my fiance died..and I want to share it with all of you. It helps…please refer back to it when you need it.
Chris this is for you.

Ascension

And if I go,
While you’re still here….
Know that I live on,

Vibrating to a different Measure
Behind a thin veil
You cannot see through.

You will not see me
So you must have faith.

I wait for the time when
We can soar together again,
Both aware of each other.

Until then, live your life
To its fullest.

And when you need me,
Just whisper my name in
Your heart,

I will be there.

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Emily on 4 May 2009 at 9:08 pm: 22

Chris, I’m glad Maggie was in peace and surrounded with love and hope that you find your peace very soon.

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Scott C. on 4 May 2009 at 9:12 pm: 23

I feel blessed to have known Maggie for the unfairly short amount of time that I did and I know that she brought joy to so many lives. We’re here for you so call on us anytime for whatever you need.

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Deena & Brent Byers on 4 May 2009 at 9:12 pm: 24

Chris,
We will all feel Maggie’s energy and see her smile for years to come. She is lighting up heaven as she lit up our world.

Our hearts ache with yours. We are here for you. Love & Light.
Deena and Brent

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Anonymous on 4 May 2009 at 9:22 pm: 25

Chris,
I’m so sorry… I just found your site tonight, and was motivated by your past posts… Please know we’re praying for all of you in Indiana.
Mary Jane

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Justin on 4 May 2009 at 9:27 pm: 26

Goodbye Mags. I will miss you.

Chris – I can’t imagine your pain. May God be w/ you and bring you peace.

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Karen knezick on 4 May 2009 at 9:28 pm: 27

You know the amazing thing about Maggie is that she has lived a full life in 30 something years. She finished school. She has achieved some amazing things. She didn’t let sickness stop her from going to Greece or other amazing stories..and she was able to find the love of her life which some of us never find. Maggie has had a prince to carry her through all of this. I hear horror stories all the time of when a partner gets sick the other one leaves…this is one of the most heart wrenching love stories ever. Its not a tragedy you have a new Angel who is going to meet all of you and welcome you onto the other side. Who more strong and beautiful than Maggie would you want or need to meet you on the other side. None of us are going to get out of this Alive rmemeber that. Maggie and Chris’s experience is a beautiful lesson for all of us to aspire to better our lives because Maggie has touched it..even if it was only through the blog. So here is what I am taking from this..you should live like Maggie fierce and strong and fighting and you should love like Chris fierce and strong and fully until the very end.

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Leslee Reply:
May 4th, 2009 at 11:20 pm
Could never have said it better myself.

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Anonymous on 4 May 2009 at 9:35 pm: 28

It is very painful to know about your loss. You two have shown so much strength. May god give you more strength to bear this loss with courage as Maggie would want the same. My prayers are with you and your family.

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Marcia Leigh on 4 May 2009 at 9:38 pm: 29

Chris may you find the strength to know that Maggie lived a life time just to be with you. She will be missed.

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Cynthia C on 4 May 2009 at 9:39 pm: 30

Maggie is still here within ALL of us. Her spirit is and will always surround you Chris. She has touched our hearts and united us all with her grace, kindess and love. For that we are all truly blessed. You both have what each and everyone of us yearns for… the unconditional love. Some of us have yet to find that but are able to have hope because of what we have seen and experienced through the two of you. Love you both…

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Anonymous on 4 May 2009 at 9:46 pm: 31

There are no words…

Chris, thank you for your bravery in telling the story of your “Cancer Adventure.” Rest in peace, dear Maggie.

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Whidbeywoman on 4 May 2009 at 9:49 pm: 32

Holding your hand and sharing your tears in cyberspace….

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nem on 4 May 2009 at 10:00 pm: 33

I wish I had something poignant and meaningful to say. I can only say that I am so, so sorry for your loss; and that from the depths of my soul, I believe that love lives on…

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Hallie on 4 May 2009 at 10:12 pm: 34

I am so sorry for your loss. I know we don’t know one another but you and your family are in my prayers. Thank you for sharing your story. It has touched me deeply.

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Maria, friend of Carrie's on 4 May 2009 at 10:13 pm: 35

Chris, I am so very sorry for your loss. I can not even begin to imagine your pain; my heart is aching for you. My thoughts and prayers continue to be with you and your family. And a huge cyber-hug for you.

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Zack & Daphne on 4 May 2009 at 10:20 pm: 36

We are honored to know you and Maggie…individually, and as such an inspirational couple; together you are true love. We will her miss her so much. You and your family are deep in our prayers.

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Scotter on 4 May 2009 at 10:22 pm: 37

Chris is in the kitchen surrounded by friends & family.

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Anonymous Reply:
May 4th, 2009 at 10:29 pm
Take good care of him.

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Linda Davis on 4 May 2009 at 10:24 pm: 38

May the Lord bless you with the wonderful memories of your precious Maggie. My prayers are with you as I know your very soul is gripped with sorrow, and yet you know she is at peace with our Lord. I will pray for you daily, that you may recover and heal. You are an amazing young man. The courage and spirit you and Maggie shared faced with incredible odds has been a beautiful story of love and devotion. Blessings to you for being willing to share your story to help others who are now inspired by your love and journey of faith.

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Dwayne on 4 May 2009 at 10:30 pm: 39

Dear Chris,
May God be with you and all the family and friends who were with you and Maggie in person through this long hard struggle. I can imagine how very many there were who offered prayers and words of encouragement and now are sharing in your sadness though they are glad that Maggie will no longer be in pain. Your writing has touched so many lives. I would encourage you to keep us posted on how you are doing for a while. Again, I am so sorry for your loss and may God give you strength to face the days to come.

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Francis Shanahan on 4 May 2009 at 10:40 pm: 40

So sorry for you Chris. I have no words.

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Valerie C. Virta on 4 May 2009 at 10:52 pm: 41

I’m very sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your adventure with us. You both are an inspiration.

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Anonymous on 4 May 2009 at 11:04 pm: 42

To Maggie and Chris’ mothers – I don’t know you, but I feel for you as you approach this Mother’s Day with the loss of your daughter and daughter-in-law so immediate and heavy on your hearts. The extraordinary lives and love chronicled here began with you, and for that you should be very proud, as the rest of us are humbled. I wish you peace on this journey.

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Lynn on 4 May 2009 at 11:04 pm: 43

I am so sorry Chris. The great cancer adventure has not only been about battling cancer with dignity and strength…but about the amazing love affair you had with your beautiful Maggie. Every woman wishes she had a husband like you. It must be wonderful to have no regrets…that everything needed to be said was said. Thank you for sharing Maggie with us.

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kym whitehead on 4 May 2009 at 11:15 pm: 44

We bless the day we met Chris, who brought Maggie into our lives. We thank Maggie for allowing us to stand and bask in the sunshine of her smile. The days will be drearier without her, but paradoxically, so much brighter for having known her at all.

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Chris Davis w/Grace Flight on 4 May 2009 at 11:25 pm: 45

I only knew Maggie for 90 minutes on a flight to Houston but I will never forget her sense of humor. She asked me with a sly grin, “Ar you lost?” when I pulled out the map to check something.

Your devotion to her is a high standard that many husbands should meet but most will miss.

God Bless

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Melissa Renee Edwards on 4 May 2009 at 11:35 pm: 46

Chris,

I am so very, very sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you, Mary, Virgil, Lori and the rest of your families.

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Trust in the Lord.

When you are the neediest, HE is the most sufficient.

When you are completely helpless, HE is the most helpful.

When you feel totally dependent, HE is absolutely dependable.

When you are the weakest, HE is the most able.

When you are the most alone, HE is intimately present.

When you feel you are the least, HE is the greatest.

When you feel the most useless, HE is preparing you.

When it is the darkest, HE is the only Light you need.

When you feel the least secure, HE is your Rock and your Fortress.

When you are the most humble, HE is most gracious.

When you can’t, HE can.

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“Now to HIM who is able to do far more abundantly beyond all that we ask or think, according to the power that works within us, to Him be the glory…” Ephesians 3:20-21, NASB

Love in Christ,

Melissa
(a high school friend of Maggie’s, and A Friend Who Loves You Both)

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Mirjana on 4 May 2009 at 11:41 pm: 47

OMG Dear Chris, I could not sleep my mind was by you and Maggie and I had this horrible feeling in my heart.I was almost afraid to open this, and I am crying as I am writing this.

As you said, she is resting now, no more suffering…my heart goes out to you and all of Maggie’s family.

may God be with all of you at this very difficult time…

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A friend through a friend (Poppa Bear) on 5 May 2009 at 12:15 am: 48

Chris, I can’t tell you how much of an inspiration you both have been. Love lives forever. Thank you for sharing your lives with us. We’re all better because of it and you did good. God bless you.

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Cristie Jo on 5 May 2009 at 12:31 am: 49

So very sorry to hear of this. Can’t imagine the sadness you are feeling. Prayers of comfort and understanding being said for you and the family. It’s just not fair.

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Kathy Smith on 5 May 2009 at 12:39 am: 50

Chris – I’ve been reading your posts since the beginning, but this is my first comment. I vividly remember the day Lori walked into my office, shut the door, burst into tears and said, “It’s cancer.” I just woke up tonight and knew this post would be here. Thank you for sharing your love story…I have no words, broken heart, prayers for you, Lori and your families.

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Cathye on 5 May 2009 at 12:40 am: 51

Your beautiful writings have blessed me through your examples of courage and unending fighting spirit in the face of overwhelming hardships as well as through examples of beautiful and amazing love. They will go with me from this time forward. I am so very sorry Maggie could not be healed in this lifetime. You and your family will be in my prayers.
Cathye (a high school friend of Nickie)

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Well Wisher on 5 May 2009 at 4:45 am: 52

Oh Chris, in many ways the road gets tougher for you now. Remember all the love, respect and admiration on this board is for you, as well as Maggie. While nothing can change the awfulness of Maggie’s way to early death- there is no doubt that together, the two of you have changed many lives. I’m lighting a candle in my heart.

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Racheal Honea Pulver on 5 May 2009 at 5:51 am: 53

My heart goes out to you. (((((HUGS))))))

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Jamey on 5 May 2009 at 5:55 am: 54

I never had the chance to meet Maggie, but I know you, Chris. I know what she meant to you – and what she will always mean to you. Hurt for her, and heal your heart… But I know from your blog you’ve got a lot of good memories that will eventually take over. May God show you, in tangible ways, how much prayer has helped, and may that bring you comfort.

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Lauren Rhone in Chicago on 5 May 2009 at 6:09 am: 55

I so sorry for your loss. My hope for you is that you find a way to get some rest. I know how hard this journey was and Maggie will be with you always. I hope you find some comfort in this native american poem:

I give you this one thought to keep -
I am with you still – I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sunlight on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning’s hush,
I am the sweet uplifting rush,
of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft starts that shine at night.
Do not think of me as gone -
I am with you still in each new dawn.

Lauren

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Jamie Sidey on 5 May 2009 at 6:12 am: 56

Chris,

I feel for you. There simply aren’t words for this.

Jamie

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Patti Kaulback on 5 May 2009 at 6:27 am: 57

My deepest sympathy goes to you and your family, Chris. I know this has been a long journey and one that you would not have chosen to make. Believe and have faith that the next journey will be difficult, but instead of days getting harder, they will be easier as you go along. Time heals the wounds and keeping busy will help. My heart goes out to you on your new journey.

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Laura Lee and Joseph Kozusko on 5 May 2009 at 6:32 am: 58

You are in our prayers Chris. Your strength and kindness has been an inspiration to us all! God Bless You.

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Stephanie on 5 May 2009 at 6:42 am: 59

I’m at a loss for words here..I’m so thankful to Leslee for introducing me to Maggie. My heart is breaking for you…
Can’t find the words…….

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Bob on 5 May 2009 at 6:50 am: 60

I’m grateful for knowing Maggie and my life is better for it. Peace be with you my friend.

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Kimberly Tanner on 5 May 2009 at 6:56 am: 61

Chris, Nickie, Carrie, Mr. and Mrs. Lumus, and all of Maggie’s family….my heart is heavy this morning as I read of Maggie’s passing. I am so very sorry.

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Shawna- Carrie's former-student on 5 May 2009 at 7:27 am: 62

To Chris and Carrie and all family and friends,
my most heartfelt apologies for your great loss.
God be with you.

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Jennifer on 5 May 2009 at 7:30 am: 63

Words cannot express how sorry I am for your loss. Like many others have said before me, Maggie has touched many lives, including my own. Her desire to keep fighting and keep living, has made me look at my life in a different way. I will always admire her strength and grace, and your unconditional love for her. Thank you for sharing your journey with us Chris…Maggie will be smiling from up above eternally now. No more suffering.
May you find peace in your faith and in your loved ones.
My prayers and thoughts will stay with you and your family.
Jennifer

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Joanna K. Reply:
May 5th, 2009 at 8:29 am
Beautifully said, Jennifer. She also helped me see things in a new way. When I’ve got my “Maggie Goggles” on the world is a wonderful place full of adventure and beauty!

Thank you, Chris and Maggie, for all that you have shared.

Chris – my thoughts and prayers are with you.

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Michelle on 5 May 2009 at 7:33 am: 64

It doesn’t seem real. Just yesterday I hugged you in my arms. It just doesn’t seem real. I keep waiting for somebody to wake me up from this horrific nightmare. I will miss you terribly Mags.

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olivia herrera on 5 May 2009 at 7:51 am: 65

Chris, I am praying to my Eternal God to give you strenght in this difficult time.
Alleluya, she is in PARADISE!

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Maggie Donovan on 5 May 2009 at 7:52 am: 66

Hold tight to memories for comfort, lean on your friends for strength, and always remember how much you are cared about.

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Carolyn on 5 May 2009 at 7:55 am: 67

I am so sorry. I am praying for you.

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Barbara on 5 May 2009 at 8:14 am: 68

You and Maggie have touched me deeply while following your journey. I am so so sorry. Know that there are many of us out here that are sending you our love and prayers and hope that it can bring some comfort to you. She will be with you always.

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Yolanda Faris on 5 May 2009 at 8:33 am: 69

All our love from Frisco, Texas

Yolanda Faris

(Dr. Carrie Bottoms former-student)

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Yolanda Faris Reply:
May 5th, 2009 at 8:50 am
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hILaSh78yHQ

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Wanda, Mom Mary's co-worker on 5 May 2009 at 8:46 am: 70

You are all in my prayers. Last night during rehearsal, I noticed a woman across the room suddenly smile in a way that reminded me of pictures I’ve seen of Maggie. It was just for a moment and it startled me. I offered a quick prayer for Maggie, for all of you. And then returned to rehearsing Earth Song by Frank Ticheli. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Aarowtnr-hs

Sing, Be, Live, See
This dark stormy hour,
the wind, it stirs.
The scorched Earth cries out in vain.

Oh war and power, you blind and blur. The torn heart cries out in pain.

But music and singing have been my refuge,
and music and singing shall be my light.

A light of song, shining strong.
Hallelujah! Hallelujah.

Through darkness and pain and strife,
I’ll sing, I’ll be, live, see.

Peace.

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michelle on 5 May 2009 at 8:49 am: 71

Chris – please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you. I only wish I could take some of the pain away from you.

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Vicki Farrar on 5 May 2009 at 8:55 am: 72

chris,
May you and your loved ones find strength in one another and in your wonderful memories of Maggie and all that she did to delight in each of you. Her light on earth may have dimmed, but there is certainly one shining brightly now in heaven. Take time to grieve but also take time to celebrate the wonderful life that the two of you shared.

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Moira Olszak on 5 May 2009 at 8:56 am: 73

I too am struggling to find the right words. I am so very sorry for your loss Chris… I hope you find comfort in the love you shared with Maggie and the memories you made that will last a lifetime.

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Patti Summerville on 5 May 2009 at 8:58 am: 74

My dear man — obviously words cannot properly express the deepness of sorrow and pain that surrounds you — your own and those who have been witness to the struggle you and Maggie have been through. There is only one thing I absolutely know to be true (and it is not my original thought) and that is death ends a life (here on earth) but not a relationship. This is where your pain will sit for a long while but it is also where the joy will first bloom when it is time. I hope you will continue this blog as you deal with your loss. I believe it will help you and all of us deal with the loss of our loved ones as well as our own mortality. Much love and strength to you.

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tom on 5 May 2009 at 8:59 am: 75

Chris, I am so very sorry for your loss. My wife who was 45 just passed away on January 31st of colon cancer and I was following your blog daily. My deepest sympathies to you and Maggie’s family.

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Anonymous on 5 May 2009 at 9:15 am: 76

My Heart hurts for you. I have never met you or Maggie but you have taught me so much.
I am so sorry for your incredible loss. My thoughts and parayers are with you.

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Joy Gotcher on 5 May 2009 at 9:17 am: 77

Chris,
You don’t know me, a friend sent me your blog address. I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet Maggie. My daughter’s friend went through the Big C Adventure with her husband and is now adjusting to life without her best friend.http://www.thewims.blogspot.com/. When the numbness and fog begin to lift, visiting her blog and witnessing her “recovery” may help just a little. Each journey is different in many respects, but the destination is the same. My prayer is for comfort and peace for you. Imagine Maggie and her beautiful smile taking in all the beauty of the heavens with no more pain or fear.

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mel on 5 May 2009 at 9:17 am: 78

Dear dear Chris – nothing to say but I’m so deeply sorry for this pain you are in. May you always know that the bond you share is an amazing example for all of us of what true love is.

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Anonymous on 5 May 2009 at 9:27 am: 79

For some reason this didn’t post last night, so here it is again. If the original post shows up, it won’t hurt to have it said twice:

To Maggie and Chris’ mothers: I don’t know you, but I feel for you as you approach this Mother’s Day with the loss of your daughter and daughter-in-law so immediate and heavy on your heart. The extraordinary lives and love chronicled here began with, and were nurtured by, you, for which you should be very proud, as the rest of us are humbled. Peace and comfort to you on your journey.

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Riley on 5 May 2009 at 9:36 am: 80

Chris,

You obviously are one special guy to have been chosen to take this difficult journey with Maggie and see her through. Heaven is holding her now, and she now holds you, to ease your pain and sadness.

May you somehow find the strength to believe life will be OK again with Maggie always in your heart!

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Maribel ( Flo's sorority sister) on 5 May 2009 at 9:38 am: 81

I’m so sorry for your loss. Maggie will always be an inspiration to me, and like others said before me, has touched and inspired me beyond words. I have everyone in my prayers. Thank you for sharing this adventure with us. God bless you.

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Anonymous on 5 May 2009 at 9:48 am: 82

Chris, words can’t express – and I can’t imagine – but I’ll try to say just a few things.

I am so sad, but also thankful to have known Maggie. She will be missed dearly.

Maggie was one of those amazing people that you feel lucky to know. Her happiness was contagious, and you made her even happier, no matter what the circumstances were. I think everyone has been glad to know you were with Maggie to share and support for this journey.

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Brooke Barber on 5 May 2009 at 9:51 am: 83

Dear Chris – please know and take comfort in that you are not alone on this road ahead. There are so many strong souls here to hold you up,walk with you and support you. And there’s one new shiny and smiling Guardian Angel named Maggie who will be with you for eternity. I am so very grateful that you let me to come see Maggie yesterday. It meant so much to me to tell her how much she has affected me, how much she has inspired me, and how beautiful and amazing I always though she was. While holding her hands she gripped them so tightly after some I shared. Though she could not speak with words easily – her reassuring grip (and rather strong) hold on my hands & her eyes said enough in response to warm my heart. This time with Maggie yesterday helps give me some small bit of peace this morning. I thank you gratefully for this. It’s hard to ask for help in situations like this, I’ve been through similar, but know that we all love you and are forever here for you. *Please* do not hesitate to let us know what we can do for you and your family.

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Denise on 5 May 2009 at 10:12 am: 84

Hi Chris,
I’m so so sorry…

I have nothing but fond memories of Maggie and the love you had for one another.

Hugs,
Denise

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Vinh from Sami and Flo's wedding. on 5 May 2009 at 10:41 am: 85

Chris,
My condolences for this incredible loss.

I met you two lovebirds at Sam and Flo’s wedding and won’t forget how charming and wonderful the both of you are.

Be well.

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Wendy Castellanos on 5 May 2009 at 10:46 am: 86

Chris, Mary, Lori and Virgil,

I am so sorry. I hope though the sadness, you can find peace knowing Maggie is no longer suffering.

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Benjamin on 5 May 2009 at 11:11 am: 87

The story of the love you two shared will forever inspire me. Never so passionate a fight was fought; never so much joy within and throughout it, amongst friends and touching the lives of the countless unknown witnesses.. Forever remembered, always admired, my heart skips a beat in memory of Maggie’s wonder, swollen with fondness and only grateful that so beautiful a moment was ever shared. Like everyone else has been moved to share, I, too, am here, touched and blessed with your friendship. Dance with the angels, Maggie, and rest with your friends, Chris, who want only to continue loving you both in every way they they can. Always yours, bq

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Lori, a friend on 5 May 2009 at 11:16 am: 88

Thank you Chris for sharing this entire journey. I know you don’t really know me very well, but Maggie was there for me with answers, some expectations and most importantly the overall empathy and willingness to help other’s understand what was happening to us with this disease.

So much life to comprehend with all of this, but she was the one that I could talk to.
She was also a very lucky woman to have you as her partner.

Please accept my condolences, and know she is at peace.
L’

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Becca on 5 May 2009 at 11:28 am: 89

What a beautiful love story. I am so sorry for the sad ending, but you two are an inspiration to me.

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Leann on 5 May 2009 at 11:28 am: 90

Chris My heart is aching for you, I am so sorry. Words are not coming to me, except that you have our love and prayers. Maggie was a beautiful spirit, a bright star in life, she will shine on through all the lives she has touched. You have been an inspiration through your unconditional love and strength. Please let us know what we can do for you Chris.
All our love

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Frances & Warren Alcorn on 5 May 2009 at 11:44 am: 91

To my sister, Mary, and to Chris, we are and have been praying for Maggie and for you to get through this difficult time. My heart breaks. Warren called me today and broke the news. I was in painting class, and I read that Maggie has been selling her paintings!!! Wonderful! What a lot of living packed into a too short time on earth. God hold her in his hands forever. God bless you all. Love, Frances & Warren

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Anonymous on 5 May 2009 at 12:25 pm: 92

Thank you for sharing this journey with us. My family sends you strength and hope. We will continue to think of you often and send prayers. Please keep us all updated on yourself.

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Leah on 5 May 2009 at 12:28 pm: 93

I only know you and Maggie from these blog posts, but you both have changed my life forever.

If she had that magic then, imagine what an angel she will make. I pray for strength and peace for you and your family during this time.

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Anonymous on 5 May 2009 at 12:39 pm: 94

When peace, like a river, attendeth my way,
When sorrows like sea billows roll;
Whatever my lot, Thou has taught me to say,
It is well, it is well, with my soul.

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Gonzo - you don't know me on 5 May 2009 at 12:42 pm: 95

Thank you for the gift that was yours and Maggies love. I have learned so much about myself and my own journey through relationships by sharing in yours with Maggie. You have modeled what life can be… a daily celebration, in all its forms.

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Bob Armstrong on 5 May 2009 at 12:50 pm: 96

Rest in Peace my Friend. Your charm touched a lot of lives including mine. May God be with you.

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Terry Yoakum Knight on 5 May 2009 at 12:56 pm: 97

My prayers and love to you at this time! Thank you for sharing so freely your blessing with the rest of us. What an inspiration you both are to so many…now we lift you up and commit to support you!
Love,
T. Knight

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Amy Wolfenbarger McDaniel on 5 May 2009 at 1:05 pm: 98

Chris: We have prayed for Maggie (and you) for a long time and we will continue to pray. May God bless you and keep you. Stay close to your family. They are another of God’s gifts to you.

Amy and Matt McDaniel

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Anonymous on 5 May 2009 at 1:40 pm: 99

Chris, you and Maggie’s family are in my thoughts and prayers. From the first day I met Maggie, she had an amazing light around her and was an inspiration. I still see her light and smile in my heart. Thank you for sharing your adventure.

God Bless You All.
Carolyn

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JJ on 5 May 2009 at 1:43 pm: 100

Maggie is finally what she was always intended to be… a beautiful angel. Though she has always been an earthly angel, she is finally able to do all those things her earthly body would not allow. She will forever be protecting and watching over us.

Chris/Maggie’s family- you are all in my constant thoughts and prayers…

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Anonymous on 5 May 2009 at 1:54 pm: 101

I am in total shock. It seems like not too long ago I saw you both and she was doing fine. I guess she was good at that, looking radiant on the outside no matter what she was feeling on the inside. Chris, I know how much you loved her, anyone that saw you together just knew. I just keep thinking that now she’s up there with Mark, having a drink, watching all of us live our day to day lives and waiting for us to someday join their party.

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Jean Hegyi on 5 May 2009 at 1:58 pm: 102

Chris, I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved Maggie. Know that she is no longer suffering and at peace. Also know that she will be watching over you. There will be little things that will happen and you will say, “I hear ya Maggie!”

The road ahead will be tough for you. Take everyone up on their offers of help and surround yourself with people for quite a while. This will ease the pain. Take time for yourself and grieve because you deserve it.

Remember all the good times with Maggie!

Jean Hegyi
(I came across this blog recently through another cancer blog.)

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Frank - Germany on 5 May 2009 at 2:03 pm: 103

Hello Chris
I am so sorry to hear what happend. No word could realy explain the pain you are feeling at the moment or you felt at the past. My wife Petra and me do deeply feel with you. I also lost two realtives last year, after a hard fight against cancer and I am still trying to win against a “C56″ which was found 1,5 years ago in my aunt´s body. I wish you all the strength you need and more for the upcoming days, weeks, months and years. Your both ways split but will be put together one day for sure!!!

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Anonymous on 5 May 2009 at 2:12 pm: 104

Chris – you and Maggie showed us all the true meanings of love and grace through your actions and words…thank you.

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wendy on 5 May 2009 at 2:35 pm: 105

Chris,
I am so sorry. I can not imagine the pain you must be feeling. You and Maggie were so obviously soul mates. Your blog entries are so touching and show so clearly how much you and Maggie loved each other. What a beautiful example of true love. Thank you for sharing your “great adventure” with others. What a blessing you and Maggie have been.

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Marla Calvert on 5 May 2009 at 2:51 pm: 106

Chris.

You are in my prayers. Thank you for being brave enough to share your life, and pain, with all of us.

Much Love.

Marla

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Tammy on 5 May 2009 at 2:54 pm: 107

Chris,When you look up the word MAN in the dictionary it should show your face.The way you’ve cared for Maggie is an example of everlasting love.I’m so very sorry for your loss.

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john s. on 5 May 2009 at 3:00 pm: 108

chris,
i dont know what to say except that maggie was so lucky to have had you by her side for so many years. she will be saving you a spot in heaven right next to her. i am so sorry for your loss. i pray for your healing. you are loved by all!

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Alan Blake on 5 May 2009 at 3:19 pm: 109

We will always remember and be grateful for Maggie and the blessing that it was to have her in our lives. Her courage, passion, determination, and strength were beyond imagination. And we will always remember and stand in awe of your love, compassion, and commitment. You have touched us all by your actions and the way that you shared your story and your lives with us. Please know that we are all here with you and very proud to be by your side. May God bless you and I know he will take very care of Maggie.

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Caroline Tan on 5 May 2009 at 3:49 pm: 110

I’m so sad for you and I can’t even imagine how painful it must be for you. I knew Maggie through Leslee and in the few times I met her she always seemed so strong, happy and never complained or let on that she was sick. I think you were both very strong and dealt with the disease so well. I’m so sorry. You are in my thoughts.

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anon on 5 May 2009 at 4:05 pm: 111

I am so sorry for your loss. That your story has touched so many strangers like myself really speaks to the special person Maggie was. Thank you for sharing your story with us. I hope your writing won’t stop here.

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Bonnie on 5 May 2009 at 5:53 pm: 112

YOUR LOVE,YOUR LIFE,YOUR WIFE.

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Brent on 5 May 2009 at 6:47 pm: 113

Wishing you comfort and peace at this time.

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Nadeem on 5 May 2009 at 6:55 pm: 114

Chris,

I am very sorry for you loss, Maggie was a wonderful person and she will truly be missed. You are an inspiration for all, and your blog showed the rest of us how much you cared and loved Maggie. May her soul rest in peace.

“To God we belong, and to God we shall return.”

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Rob Grady on 5 May 2009 at 7:16 pm: 115

Hi Chris,

I worked with Maggie several years ago and you have my deepest condolences. She was absolutely wonderful and made a positive impact on everyone she met. I am so sorry for your loss and my prayers are with you.

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Bobbie on 5 May 2009 at 7:39 pm: 116

Chris (and Carrie) –

Maggie has been on my mind for many days now and I have wanted to check in to see how she was doing. I replied to a post from a few days ago before I saw this post. Please ignore it and excuse my oversight…I was only trying to help.

I am so, so sorry for the loss of your beautiful Maggie! Thank you for sharing your love for her with all of us. We needed to know that a love like yours exists. We enjoyed the inspiration of your devotion to one another. We appreciated the grace with which you both met every setback. And, now we all mourn deeply with you. We cry the tears that you have most like ran out of, but desperately still need to shed. I will, as I’m sure all that followed your story, always remember you and Maggie and the love you gave so generously to one another and to all those that had the priviledge of knowing you face to face.

You shared your story with us all and it is a gift of hope and courage and strength and unconditional, unwavering, unequivocal LOVE.

May God hold you while you grieve and know that we will all be holding you in our hearts forever.

Warmest regard, Bobbie Luce
former student of Carrie’s

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Martha P. on 5 May 2009 at 7:51 pm: 117

Chris,
I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and all your family. May God comfort you and give you peace.

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Carlos Andrade on 5 May 2009 at 8:47 pm: 118

Chris, you don’t know me from Adam but Maggie and I went to high school together. I was going to be Kevin Cripp’s second if he had needed it since Maggie and I had gone to the Opera our senior year. On the way back to her home, I lost a hubcap on my car (stupid Airport road) but she took it all in stride. She is (since she is in our hearts and has not left us in spirit) a great person.

I am glad that you are with friends and family that love and care for you.

-Carlos Andrade

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Brooke on 5 May 2009 at 9:49 pm: 119

Hello friends, I’ve been asked by the family to create a digital slideshow from pictures from Maggie’s life for the Memorial Service we will be having soon (TBD).

If you have any photos of you and Maggie, or Maggie with other friends – please send them to me at and I will do my best to include as many of them as possible on the slideshow for the service. Please let me know if you have any questions. Please do try to send me the best quality/version of the photos that you have.

Thanks and bless you all,
Brooke

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Brooke Reply:
May 5th, 2009 at 9:52 pm
the email address didn’t show in that post, it was somehow deleted automatically.

it’s MaggiePhoto (at/@) marybrooke (dot) com

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A friend Reply:
May 5th, 2009 at 11:12 pm
Here’s an easier version. Just copy and paste:
MaggiePhoto@marybrooke.com

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Brooke Reply:
May 6th, 2009 at 7:46 am
ah, thanks friend … for some reason – when I typed it in my original message – it just ‘disappeared’ once I hit post. I have limited time to work on this – so again, please – if anyone had photos of themselves with Maggie they would like me to include – please send them as soon as possible. Thanks and love to you all. ~Brooke
Phase I Longhorn on 6 May 2009 at 12:24 am: 120

Dear Chris, As we follow a similar path, Maggie’s strength and life and amazing spirit and smile will continue to inspire and comfort us. Even as your journey together has come to an end, your own journey continues, and we hope you will continue to write… it is your gift for words among many other reasons that your story has such resonance. Thank you so much for sharing your true love Maggie with us, and know that we, like so many others, have been changed by knowing both of you- even if we have never met. Our thoughts are with you, and with all of Maggie’s family and friends.

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Monica on 6 May 2009 at 7:18 am: 121

I’m so sorry Chris. Maggie was an amazing human being and I feel lucky to have met her through Florencia and have a couple fun times with her. Her smile was and will always be contagious. God Bless you.

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Kim on 6 May 2009 at 7:27 am: 122

Chris, I am so very sorry. Your love story is truly magical and that love will always be in your heart. I thank you and Maggie for sharing your journey with everyone. You are both incredibly inspiring and like so many have said before me, you have touched my life so much. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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Mariah on 6 May 2009 at 11:01 am: 123

My heart goes out to everyone who loves Maggie.

I dreamed about her last night . . I was having a party and she came. I told her I thought she had died, and she gave a big beautiful smile and said very simply, “I wanted to come to the party.” And then we hugged each other really really tight. I can still feel how it felt to hug her in my dream. So physical.

Chris thank you for this blog, for allowing those of us who loved Maggie but who are not in close contact some access to the world and struggles you have shared. I am making major changes in my life in response to what I witnessed between you, and here. I am sending my love, and most of all, gratitude.

Love,

Mariah (a friend of Maggie’s from high school)

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Leslee Reply:
May 6th, 2009 at 4:36 pm
That is so Maggie! As I was crying into margarita’s yesterday I could hear Maggie saying “I’d have one if I was there.” Now I can hear her telling everyone how to run heaven. “If it were me, I’d do this.” “You should do this” “Hang this here” “That would look better here.” And doing it all with that big ass smile looking graceful as ever.

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Anonymous on 7 May 2009 at 8:27 am: 124

Dear Chris,

You and Maggie have inspired so many. She is looking down and she is smiling! She is beautiful, happy and at peace. What a courageous journey!

I didn’t have the honor of meeting Maggie, but I know the story too well. She is an absolute rock star.

Thank you for sharing your story with so many of us. It has been one of tears, laughter, joy, heartache and true love.

My best friend lost her battle on 9/9. They are the same age and had the exact diagnosis. They both handled it will dignity, style, humor and grace!

I leave you with my favorite Charlotte’s Web quote:

“You have been my friend. That in itself is a tremendous thing. I wove my webs for you because I liked you. After all, what’s a life, anyway? We’re born, we live a little while, we die. A spider’s life can’t help being something of a mess, with all this trapping and eating flies. By helping you, perhaps I was trying to lift up my life a trifle. Heaven knows anyone’s life can stand a little of that.”

“It is not often someone comes along that’s a true friend and good writer. Charlotte was both.”
E.B. White

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Diana Moles- Monica Quintero's Friend on 7 May 2009 at 10:07 am: 125

Chris and Family-
I never had the pleasure of meeting you or Maggie. However my friend Monica had the pleasure to and I just want to say that I am very sorry about your loss. I know we dont know each other but please know that my heart hurts for you and your family and like you said she is finally not suffering and with our Heavenly Father. Please know that you guys have been in my prayers and will continue to be… God Bless you and your family

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Both a cancer pt and "caregiver" on 7 May 2009 at 12:11 pm: 126

Chris, It may seem like cold comfort now, but you have been a stellar caregiver. You provided your beloved with the physical, emotional and spiritual support and love that she needed. No one could have done more.

I also want to thank you for the kind things you said to my husband and me even though we’ve never met. I am so impressed you took time to write to me during your growing grief.

I ache for both of you although we’ve never met. Somehow you both give me some courage to go on with my own difficult situation.

God bless you and Maggie,
Carol

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Jackie on 7 May 2009 at 2:23 pm: 127

I’m sorry for your lost. You’re in my thoughts and prayers.

Jackie

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