Somehow I stumbled across a blog of a fellow traveler, LN, who is morning her precious KT. Her Angel Day was February 11, 2010. LN is behind me on this journey and I too clearly recognize the pot holes she’s stumbling into. One thing she posted really hit dead on, a list she compiled from a grief counseling session. It’s just right on and worth repeating. Many of my posts over the last year speak to one or more of these points. So here it is, edited just slightly:
1) Your grief will take longer than most people think it should.
2) Your grief will take more energy than you can imagine.
3) Your grief will show itself in all spheres of your life and who you are; it will affect social relationships, health, thoughts, feelings and beliefs.
4) You may experience spasms, waves or acute upsurges of grief without warning.
5) You will have trouble thinking and making decisions: poor memory and organization.
6) You may have some confusion about who you are; this is due to the intensity and unfamiliarity of the grieving experience and uncertainty about your new role in the world.
7) You will grieve for future losses the death entails (hopes, dreams and unfulfilled expectations you held for and with that person).
All my best, LN. You are not traveling alone. There are millions of us.